Feeling Distant in a Relationship? Love Comes from Within

Many times when I work with couples I hear them wishing they felt better. I feel their discomfort when they tell me about their partner and how they don’t feel loved. I empathize with the individuals who tell me how unhappy they are about feeling distant in their relationship.

These feelings are pretty common. And there are reasons why. When we fall in love with our special person everything feels better than it’s ever felt. We fall in love with that feeling and we hunger for it when it goes away.

Most of us can relate to feeling some sort of irritation with our mate. I know we try and love them, but we all know we don’t love everything they do. In fact we might even become annoyed or irritated by some of their behaviors.

Some of us even get so frustrated when this happens that we can’t deal with those behaviors anymore so we leave the relationship and look for another partner, less annoying and irritating. But this article is about you staying in the relationship you are in and learning how to deal with your discomfort.

Relationship arguments can be difficult to get through. You fight with your loved one, feel unsafe, and feel hurt. Most of all, you might worry whether your relationship can weather the storm.

It can. Here’s how.

When people tell me how they are being kind to themselves they often give me a list of the things they do to pamper themselves; go to the gym, the spa, go shopping etc. I hear this often when I inquire of a person’s kindness.

I think we think of things outside ourselves like an activity or things we do to our bodies to stay in shape, or eating our favorite foods as real treats for us as humans. And I am glad people do this for themselves.

In our relationships, the little things can mean a lot to us.

This morning as I was making my tea and waiting for it to brew, I thought “I have 3 minutes. I could empty the dishwasher.” So instead of taking the teapot into the other room and relaxing into my chair to begin my day, I started to put the dishes away. I believed I could finish it in that amount of time.

As I was bringing the glasses over to their cabinet I thought of how much my husband does for me. He was the one who loaded the dishwasher and started it. He was the one who cooked an amazing dinner the night before and because I was very tired he offered to do the dishes, (normally my job) for me.

Monthly Archives: March 2016

Feeling Distant in a Relationship? Love Comes from Within

How to Deal with an Irritating Girlfriend, Boyfriend, or Spouse

Relationship Arguments: How to Survive Them & Love Again

Be Kind to Yourself, and Your Happiness Will Follow

Notice the Little Things in Your Relationship to Feel Loved