I was driving recently and, while looking out the window, saw an old man with white hair. He was tall and appeared in good health. He had this look in his eye, a young sort of gleam that spelled mischief. I caught him in the action of reaching for his ladies hand. It was a cold night and her head was buried in a hat, but I saw a huge smile brim across her mouth when they connected.
She took his hand and looked up at him. He looked at her and they locked eyes as if they had just met. It felt so fresh I thought for a moment they might be on a first date. But the friendliness of the action had a familiar feel to it and reminded me that they have probably held hands many, many times before.
Random Acts of Life Spice Up Your Relationship and Your Life
I thought, what a beautiful moment for me to witness. It’s just a little thing, a man reaching for the hand of a beloved, but this connection and the joy that beamed from this couple reminded me of how important the little things can be for all of us.
This couple hasn’t stopped being in love. This couple is still finding a way to connect with a physical touch, on the street in the middle of a city where everyone can see it. Not a shred of embarrassment in site. Now who does this? Do you? Do you grab your partner’s hand with wild enthusiasm because you love them and you want them to know it?
Be Bold (and Maybe a Little Shameless) in Expressing Your Love
Do you forget there is anyone else there and just express yourself to the one you love, openly, in public? I think we are all pretty familiar with the quote “dance like nobody’s watching.” Why not love our person like no one is watching?
You love your mate. You really do. That is why you are together, in spite of difficulties and challenges, you are still together. And when you tell someone about your problems you probably say, but I love him, (or her). That’s love.
Revel in Your Love and Both Your Spirits Will Be Lifted
What will it take for you to remember that you love your person and that making an effort to demonstrate this love could be amazing? Find a way to express this love to them. Don’t wait. Be a child again, free and wild with abandon, like the old couple I saw on the street. This man had a crazy, wild look in his eye, just like a teenager getting away with something great. And why not, he was sashaying across the street with his best girl on his arm, just like always, just like it’s supposed to be. And isn’t that a beautiful image and message for all of us?
Bring More Loving Surprises to Your Relationship
Read a Book About Relationships
Can’t make it on Monday? If you’d like some help feeling connected and paving the road for more loving outbursts. try reading Linda’s book, Safe. Happy. Loved. Simple Skills for Your Relationship. It might just help you connect, lighting the spark to spontaneously express love in your relationship. Give it a read.
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