When Our Partner Speaks With a Sharp Tongue

When Our Partner Speaks With a Sharp Tongue

When our feelings get hurt, all of us do something. We might close up and feel bad. We could get loud and yell. And some of us are good at cutting people down with rather pointed words.

All of these behaviors are designed to either stop the pain, whether we shut down or take someone’s head off. We are doing something because we feel terrible inside.

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How We Wait for Things to Get Better

How We Wait for Things to Get Better

I was thinking about the concept that most people in relationships and in their lives hold some great vision of what their life would look and feel like if it was only better.

I see this play out in many of the counseling sessions I have with couples. A couple will come in and they tell me what is happening in their relationship and how the relationship isn’t working. They might also give me a window into what they have been waiting for, their ideal partnership, the one that runs perfectly.

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